Dating for 11 year olds
My experience with my two boys (one grown, one in college) is that at the age of your son "going out" is more of a status thing at school than actually going anywhere.
Both of my boys were "going out" with girls at different times, but it didn't involve anything other than phone calls (monitored by us) and talking at school until they were in high school.
Tell him that all the really smart beautiful girls are going to be in college and he does not want to be already tied down to somebody since he was 11 when he gets there.
I don't wanna be overprotective, but I also in NO means want to seem as though I am encouraging sexual activity.....
Anyone out there already been or currently going through this??
Courting used to be what was done and involved the parents helping the child chose a mate when they were ready... I believe that we can help our children to spend this time developing character traits that will help them when it is time for this.
Again, all this would come better from Dad to son..of that becoming man thing.
He has a lifetime to date and just a short time left to be young.
Have you talked with your husband about what his vision is in this area?If his friends are doing that then he may need to find a wider more diverse group to hang with. 11 yo is too young to be dating and regardless of what he has told you - not everyone is doing it. They can only get somewhere if a parent takes them! My son who just turned 12 said he had 3 "girlfriends" last year. Cool" and I never heard a girl call the house for him or heard him call a girl. I personally am not going to let my son go on a "date" until he's going to high school.Lots of kids hang out together - they meet at the mall, the movies, a restaurant - but parents should always be involved and in sight. I have a friend who has 2 daughters that are just about my sons ages. He can meet a group of frineds at the movies that include girls, but not a one on one thing.Check out and see what you think of Justin Lookadoo's website and books.He had some things to say that really effected one of my boys.I would let him go out with girls but only if others who are sensible are there.