They also resent their peers or boyfriends from home going back to India to find a bride, and feel as if the male double standards pervade this generation.

It is not uncommon to have Indian men sleep with Indian girls from America, and marry women from India.

We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses.

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My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Indian women were slim to none.

As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage.

So, I realised it wasn’t just ‘white women’ that struggle on this front.

There were the sudden disappearing acts, the men admitting they were married seven dates into the dating, or lavishing her with gifts without really knowing her.

“It’s true about the independence of these women—many are working and investing in their careers.

While the traditional role of the Indian women is to be subservient and docile, the Indian women of America are in a tough situation: being aggressive in America is the norm and provides future success.I’ve been doing some more research on the Indian men/white men vs Indian women/white women dating scene.I met a female NRI from the States, who now lives back in the Mumbai at the weekend, for a coffee. She had story after story about her troubles dating Indian men in Mumbai.Traditionally, the wife moves in with her husband’s family in a joint family situation, and Indian women in America don’t want to do so.Many parents of Indian males forsee this situation, and will pressure their son into an arranged marriage.Lavina Melwani, in her article ”Growing up in America,” talks of the “Rajah Syndrome”: young Indian males want all the attention and are extremely spoiled by their mothers.