In parts of the US, such a notion has become so pervasive that last year, Debbie Lum, an American filmmaker of Chinese descent, sought to capture the madness in her documentary “Seeking Asian Female”.“I like to joke that San Francisco is the epicentre of the yellow fever phenomenon”, says Debbie, who describes a general awareness of being looked at by men because she’s Chinese.

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The stereotyping plays itself out in the roles you see Chinese women playing in theatre, on TV or in films.

Take the 25th anniversary revival of Miss Saigon in the West End.

I'm not certain this happens as widely as some believe, since I've never once been turned down because of my race (though plenty of times for other reasons).

Furthermore, in my life through Houston/NYC/North Carolina/the Bay Area and SF so far, almost all the Asian girls in relationships that I've known are partnered with Asian males.

Unless you're some crazy pickup master you're probably falling on some other sword...

The best and most successful outlook is to be proud of being an Asian male.

In the UK, Sherry Fang, a 26-year-old British Chinese student, tells me she's had strangers say to her “you look just like his ex, she was also Chinese”, and argues it would be wholly inappropriate if she were black or Indian.

In Britain, while significant rates of intermarriage between the Chinese and white Caucasian population have demonstrated social integration, the trend is nevertheless heavily skewed towards Chinese women and white men, rather than the other way around.

Twice I've been told by the girl that I am the first Asian male in her dating history, but further digging always ends up showing that there just weren't as many compatible Asian males in her life up until she met me. If you feel and agonize over the fact that that Asian men can't get with Asian women, you'll exhibit more nervousness, bitterness, and anger when interacting with Asian women you're attracted to. If you're still rejected, face facts squarely - are you really being turned down because of your race?

Or is it more probable that you just don't know what you're doing when approaching women?

Preen about your nerdy accomplishments, your extremely hard working parents, your amazingly deep cultural history, and the deep sense of family that might be yours. Much better than hating on your race (and therefore hers).